the why factor

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A couple of months ago I  read a story about the Israelites in 1Samuel 8:1-21.(Please take the time to read this.)

 They wanted a king. End of story.What God had to say through Samuel didn't matter.They didn't care one skerrick  that a king would make them slaves and cause them a lot of grief.Here's exactly what they told God: we're mature enough to handle our issues.We want to be like the nations around us. We want a tangible king.Someone we can see. Just give us a king! 

As I  read further  on verses 4-20 it explained  that  their desire for a king wasn't the problem but the motive behind their desire for a king. .which was to be like the nations around them. These people were the apple of God's eye..His heartbeat.A people He brought up out of Egypt..parted the Red Sea to allow  them  waltz through while their adversaries were hot on their heels.A people whose enemies  he gave countless victories over. There was practically nothing He didn't do for them granted they obeyed Him. Then suddenly He was rejected..the Almighty was rejected by His chosen ones..because the grass of their neighbors who had a king looked greener.

  Can you count the times  you have looked at a someone's life and thought.."God, see her life? She's got everything going for her.Her career is great and her family isn't  dysfunctional . I want that life!" 

 "He's got such a sweet ride, a beautiful wife and no care in the world! Can't I have that?"  

 "she was whoring around while I remained chaste. The kind of stories I heard about her eh! And she's not even nice! I doubt if she's repented sef .So how does she get to marry while I'm still here?..boyfriendless!"

I've been there...too many times. 

When I read the above scripture it got me thinking about my desires. I realized that I had been praying to God a lot, asking (more like nagging) him for one thing..a husband.                                         "Father,give me a husband.Lord, I want to get married! God, I'm growing oh!"  

So in trying  to test the motive behind that desire I asked myself: 

"why do I want to get married?" 

I tried  to figure out(as honestly as possible) the motive behind my desire for a husband . Why do I want a husband?  Is it because most of my mates  are getting married or at least have steady boyfriends? Is it because at my age it's the politically correct thing to pray about after my career?  Or it's just the idea of a glamorous wedding ceremony  with my loved ones  looking on that I actually want?         

Could it be the pictures that would flood social media after? Or it's because according to my timeline 27 is when I get married or at least have a boyfriend?  Maybe it's  just me being human and praying for  someone with whom I can have that forever kind of companionship with.

Being discontent can turn us into crazies who look for quick fixes to deep rooted issues. Instead of going to our source to be fixed we try to get ahead of  ourselves and the all knowing God.

There's the tendency to think that any random guy could be the "one" because we're so desperate to get out of the singles pool  or that  opportunity which seems too good to be true could be what we need to get us out of the rut we're stuck in. A sister spots  one  fiiine  brother in  church (oh he's so  fine) praying in tongues. The first thing she does is to check his left hand😂. If all's clear she  proceeds to obsess over the kind of kids they'll  have if they get together based on his looks (yes she goes that far) .Then she'll  ask God if the guy's the one or he'll be the one or he may be the one.Only to later find out that this brother she was obsessing over isnt even all that! Woaa see🙄.

  Now.. that one thing you've been asking  God for or been wishing you had.Have you stopped to think about exactly why you want it? Is it to fill some void in your life? Is it to make up for some flaws? Is it to make you feel you're better than the next person or to get you your dream girl ?

Whatever it is :                                               1.Do not let your need for any one thing  replace God..do not make it an idol such that it's  all you think,talk and dream about.  Matthew 6:33 says but seek first  his kingdom  and his righteousness and all these things will be given to you as well.(NIV)                                                  Simply put:"In the grand scheme of things we generally find what we need and want when we are not actively looking for them,but are focused instead on the Lord and His Kingdom.God brings everything else into our sphere when our eyes are steadfastly fixed on Him"              -Dr.Myles Munroe 

2.Wherever you find yourself right now is exactly where God needs you to be at this point in your life.  Yes..let that sink it. 

You're exactly where you need to be!

And there's time for every thing so be content! (Ecclesiastes 3:1). Never make your need for change consume you so much that you're unhappy and fail to enjoy every moment in time. Godliness with contentment is great gain.               Like Apostle Paul let us  learn to be content whether in plenty  or in want.(Philippians 4:12)

 Trust me when I say God doesn't need your help.Relax! He's got it covered.He makes ALL things beautiful in His time.

I would like to think  He uses that "unexciting" period in our lives to prepare us for our next season..so we'll be able to handle  bigger responsibilities. 

Be a better you right now.. whether single,unemployed, employed but unhappy or married ..

~Dr.E

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